That Faux Fuzzy Facebook Feeling

I caught up recently with a friend who used to work with me in television.

She didn’t work *for* me — she was in another department, but we knew one other well enough that we’ve stayed in touch off and on over the years thanks to Facebook and email.

She read one of my posts (which I also send as email) and thought she’d reach out.

Turns out she’s looking for a full time job, open to going in a new direction and wanted my advice. (I told her I haven’t looked for work in a really long time, as in, submitting a resume — but career pivots, yes, I’m familiar with that).

She’s a television production ace. Last year, she worked on the MLB telecast at Wrigley Field and got to experience the Cubs winning it all. Despite a resume filled with the most impressive companies in media, she is having problems even getting in the door. Hmmm.. what gives?

She’s been looking for FT work since August and is starting to doubt whether she can convince *any hiring manager* to ‘take a chance’ on her.

Her story had a familiar ring. This pretty much sums up what is going on out there:

1. See a job posted. Apply for job. Learn that there’s already a candidate identified, and that the posting was a formality.

2. Hear of a job. Contact the hiring manager. Never get a response to your email or calls.

3. Actually get a response to your application and a screening call is scheduled with not the hiring manager, but someone in HR. When time comes for the call, you aren’t called. When the call is rescheduled, it may or may not happen on time. After that call, it is determined you aren’t a fit.

And so on and so on.

Here’s the deal. People have dignity. And only until you are laid off or worse, will you *truly* appreciate what it’s like to face the financial horror show of being out of work and having bills.

My friend isn’t married — her parents are long gone.

And oh yeah, her landlord just notified her that her rent is going up by $200/month.

So my message today is if you know someone who is looking, call them or take them to lunch and find out how they are *really doing*

Facebook has transformed relationships — allowing us to stay in constant surface-level touch with others. But it leaves all of us with this faux fuzzy feeling that we’re caught up because we saw photos of their kid’s latest achievement online. Untrue.

There are things you can’t and shouldn’t say on Facebook — and a real conversation with a friend is the only substitute. This was one of those times.

If you use Facebook and/or Twitter in your job, I’d love to hear more about how that’s going.

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No substitute though, for a hug.

Carol Fowler

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